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John, sorry to hear about what happened. My condolences to you, and your family.
I lost my grandma eight years ago, it was really difficult for me because I really loved my grandma, and miss her every day. I had the best relationship with her. My mom tells me all these stories about how when my parents were at work, she would babysit my older sisters and I. One time she was carrying me and was walking down stairs at her house and she fell. She made sure I wouldn't get hurt but she got hurt. When my mom told me this story I literally started to cry b/c it made me miss her so much. Now I spend every waking hour I can with my parents I make sure that I call them all the time to make sure they are doing fine and that I don't want me last words to be "I f**kin hate you" (knocks on wood this won't be my last words) I let my parents know how much I love them, and I tell them I appreciate everything they do for me. My parents are divorced so I make sure I talk to my dad every day. And live with my mom during summer/and other breaks during the school year. Then I go to my dad's when ever he is in town. My dad also taught me what I know about cars. We go to the track and watch the races and watch the races on Speed. We also go to GLD (Greatlakes Drag) and Route 66 drag strips.
Take this in stride, it'll be difficult the first couple of weeks, then it'll get better because you'll remember the good times. DO NOT AND I REPEAT DO NOT THROW AWAY ANYTHING THAT IS YOUR DAD'S!! Put them in a spot where you can go to and remember him. __________________ Greg
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I'm really sorry to hear that John | | | | | 04-12-2010, 08:29 AM | #18 | | Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Boston, MA Posts: 1,152 |
Sorry for your loss John. My condolences to you and your family. | | | | | 04-12-2010, 03:37 PM | #19 | | Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Gulfport, Florida Posts: 3,208 |
Guys thanks for the kind words. Yep I'm the one in charge of keeping control of the family, always have been. 2 sisters and mom plus my own family to worry about. I seldom cry and deal with death in my own way, always have.
Honestly I'm ok, busy with a project on the bimmer this morning and arrangements until Wednesday then I will return to work. | | | | | 04-12-2010, 08:27 PM | #20 | | Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Schiller Park, Illinois (w.sub.of Chicago) Posts: 67 |
Sorry to hear for your loss  | | | | | 04-12-2010, 09:25 PM | #21 | | Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Gulfport, Florida Posts: 3,208 |
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Sorry to hear it John. __________________ ...
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Sorry for your loss John. __________________
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225k miles and still the Ti goes on | | | | | 04-13-2010, 02:24 AM | #24 | | Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Georgia Posts: 148 |
im sorry friend... my condolences to you and yours. i lost my mother 2 years ago last month and im not sure if i have completely delt with that emotionally just yet. but i don't know if your a believer but god is strong and he hasn't forsaken you. god bless man. you'll definitely pull through! __________________  It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives. | | | | | 04-13-2010, 02:32 AM | #25 | | Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: norcal - 94590 Posts: 3,186 |
John, hope you are taking a break now. Peace with you in this very difficult time. Losing friends and family is never easy, and losing your best friend is terrible. I lost my father to brain cancer 15 years ago, and I still miss him... He taught me all the important lessons in life. I still have conversations with him, and I know he is listening.
Be strong for your family, but it's ok to let someone else be strong for you... __________________ James 95 active w/leather interior and sport interior conversion, Vaders, full M-Tech exterior conversion. Now m50 swapped* Eibach sway bars, D2 Coilovers, Depo's w/AE's, blacked-out sides and grills, LeatherZ console and door armrests, 1 series starter button mod, and custom finished Style 5's <--- in this color! Named "Roddy":  *M50 6 cyl. swap with fan delete, S50 cams and chip, AFE stage 2 intake, M3 clutch and 11.5 lb Fidanza flywheel, 3.15LSD, battery relocated to rear and complete custom exhaust. Sweet!  97 318ti sport, Alaska Blue, Contours, coilovers, Dove Vaders and custom black/grey interior named "Max" 95 318ti Active in Cosmos, S50 swap in progress... named "Pit" SUPPORT 318ti.org! CLICK THE LINK ABOVE! Hosting a forum like this is not free. 318ti.org is one of the best BMW forums on the web because it is member supported, not vendor supported. The cost to become a Supporter is a nominal $10.00... A YEAR! DO IT! NOW! | | | | | 04-13-2010, 06:42 AM | #26 | | Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Long Beach, SoCal Posts: 373 |
John,
May you and your family be blessed by the prayers & thoughts of all those connected to you.
To lose a loved one is hard no doubt, but to lose tragically is another. I am sorry to hear of your loss. __________________
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John, sorry to hear of your family's loss. I think you can be relieved he likely felt no physical pain and he has gone on to a better place. Not sure if you all are religious (I'm not) but I believe a part of us lives on somehow and he's right there with you loving and protecting your family just like he did in life. I had a contentious relationship with him in life but I ultimately accepted him for who he was and what he was given to work with. Now as a father myself I respect him for his responsible choices in life that I aspire to live up to. Count yourself lucky you got to learn those lessons while he lived. BTW, did you infer he was not wearing a seat belt in a van with airbags? I didn't think they deployed? Quote: Originally Posted by wolferj  I lost my father to brain cancer 15 years ago... I still have conversations with him, and I know he is listening. | True for me too. I have a better relationship with him now than when he was alive! My dad passed away in 1998 after a slow losing battle with the after effects of lung cancer and lung removal. When we were called to come back to Wisconsin immediately (living in Ohio at the time) I packed and was changing the cat litter in the basement when I got a distinct sensation someone was over my right shoulder. Of course no one was there but we did get a phone call 15 minutes later saying he had died about 15 minutes before. Later a psychic told me he was over my right shoulder apologizing for something very few people would ever know he said. Quite sure he visited me when me and the mrs were making hot love once (he was a strict catholic, dunno?) and also when I told my daughter the story of Noah's arc (pin points of light again over my right shoulder, Sophie saw it too). I found talking to a reputable psychic very moving, disturbing and healing all at once. Peace bro. __________________
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| | | | | 04-14-2010, 06:31 PM | #28 | | Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Gulfport, Florida Posts: 3,208 |
Quote: Originally Posted by 96cali
BTW, did you infer he was not wearing a seat belt in a van with airbags? I didn't think they deployed?
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| He was wearing seat belts in the van and the air bag deployed. He was in a wheelchair since he was a Korean war veteran and was put in that wheel chair at a young age from that war. Lived everyday with courage. We got the MA report. He suffered major injuries from the accident but never said a word to anyone. Typical of him. He would hit his finger full force with a hammer and not flinch, just say "Johnny get me some ice". I miss him so much and I respect him so much. I hope I can fill his shoes. They are so BIG... | | | | | 04-14-2010, 11:19 PM | #29 | | Moderator Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: SoCal318ti Posts: 1,574 |
my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, be strong and thanks for making us part of your family!!! | | | | | 04-14-2010, 11:29 PM | #30 | | Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Maryland, USA Posts: 678 |
Im sorry to hear this John. Stay strong but be sure to let it out as others have mentioned. __________________
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